Okay, so I’m not really a practitioner of Chinese philosophy or medicine.
Anyway…. I do believe that being around “negativity” can sap something out of you. However, I also believe that negative energy can be used positively.
Last night was a bit of a rough night for me and my Qi. 🙁 And it feels like it carried over into today.
I was getting hit with negative energy on two fronts and it definitely brought me down.
The first attack happened at work. I was working my scheduled 2:00 – 10:15 shift when my coworker for the evening came in for her 5:00 PM start time. She’s a part timer who only wants to work a couple days per week and only wants to work short shifts of 4-5 hours, due at least in part to a bad back.
When my coworker saw that she was not scheduled any days next week, she was extremely angry about it and started bitching about how unfair it was, how she shouldn’t be treated this way, etc., etc. She also complained that when she is scheduled, it’s always on nights and weekends. She doesn’t like working nights because she doesn’t drive and her hubby rides her to and from work, but he goes to bed early because his job starts very early in the mornings.
For whatever reason, there seems to be a disconnect between her and our manager.
Personally, I think both parties share blame in this situation, but I won’t go into all of that here.
My coworker claims that she doesn’t need the job for the money and simply works to get out of the house. That’s fine and dandy if you’re fortunate enough to be in that situation. Most of us actually have to work.
It seems like she complains about the schedule every week, although it probably just feels that way. If you truly don’t need to work, why in the world would you stay working at a place where your schedule aggravates you so much? If I were in that situation, I would either quit and find another job, or find something else to get me out of the house for a couple days per week such as volunteer work or whatever.
My work persona is low key, mellow, and somewhat jocular. Her vocal and overstated irritation was a real buzzkill for the first couple hours of the evening and had an overall negative impact on my productivity and mood for the whole night. I didn’t like it and now I’m bitching about her bitching, lol.
Attack number two was on the domestic front.
My better half just started a new job and was working a 2:00 – 9:00 shift last night for her second day of work. The first day was just a couple hours of filling out paperwork and a little orientation.
Just around the time my coworker was throwing her hissy fit about the schedule, my wife called the store and when I answered, she said “This place is unbelievable”. I could tell it wasn’t the positive type of unbelievable from the tone in her voice. I had a customer, so I told her I would have to call her back.
Soooooo, after listening to my coworker rant for a bit, I figured I would step outside and give the spouse a call to get more details.
As it turns out, she has stepped into a situation where negativity may be running rampant and unchecked.
When she was introduced to one of her new coworkers, his first words to her were, “Yeah, I know who you are. You stole that big sale from me in Cranberry.” A little back story here — the district manager for the store where she now works actually shopped her at her previous job and recruited her to come to this new job. Both stores sell the same merchandise and operate under the same brand name, but they are different divisions and are competitors. An absolutely terrible way to greet a new coworker.
That coupled with an overall poor attitude of her coworkers made her first full day a lousy one. People grumbling about pay, hours, staffing, etc. I think we can all be guilty of grumbling on the job from time to time, but I know I usually go out of my way to let new coworkers get the feel of things on their own without interjecting any of my own issues.
So her negative coworkers actually ended up impacting me. Bummer.
Okay, I’m done bitching out bitchers. 😀
As for me, after flaking out from stress back in 2008 and quitting my job, I made the decision to resist being negative at work. Naturally, it will happen from time to time, but if you are consistently miserable at your job, you need to get out… ASAP.